The Simplicity Behind Being Thankful
With the arrival of Thanksgiving comes the final push of 2018, and the timeless celebration of gratitude. Grateful for the food we are about to eat, grateful for the people around the table with us, and for some…grateful for the deals to be found clawing through Black Friday.
It is not lost on many that gratitude is important. Important to be humble, to acknowledge the blessings we do have, to remember it’s not that bad.
Often, we find ourselves in situations where we are stressed, let down, frustrated, or emotionally beat up. It’s completely normal to allow ourselves to develop these feelings, it’s important to have that emotional experience. To say that October was a challenging month for me, is an understatement. There were many times things did not go the way I wanted them to. I was frustrated to the point of almost wallowing in the defeat, I wanted to sit there and sulk. But as much fun as that sounds, once that funk takes hold, 1-it’s extremely hard to come out of, and 2-we don’t have time for that.
So, what did I do? I remember feeling hopeless and helpless. I didn’t know what to tweak anymore, what new approach to go after, and I was crushed. I really didn’t know how to fix my mood. The only thing I could think of was to sit in gratitude for a while. I remembered it’s what every teacher I look up to offers as guidance when you feel this way, it was literally all I could think of. And, as you would expect from this post, it is EXACTLY what worked to pull me out of that hole.
Because while you may want to indulge your sad-side, gratitude simply won’t allow for it. It’s kind of like when you are sad and someone teases you not to laugh, you can’t help but crack that initial smile. Same thing when you are in gratitude. As you start thinking about your thankfulness, then move to feeling it, you can’t help but feel better. It simply feels better and your brain is doing its part by flooding you with oxytocin, to move you forward.
After sitting in gratitude for about 10 minutes, I came around almost full circle. I wasn’t doing cartwheels, but I was able to smile, to let go of the pain, to level out. That’s using gratitude as a tool. And the more you practice gratitude, the easier it is to call on it to help you.
Thank you, Gratitude.
Karyn Danielle Chylewski is a business leadership coach who wants you to inspire and influence thoughtful action within your team…so they can contribute their gifts to your business, and as a team you get to love the work you do.