Achieving something you have never done before lends itself to the understanding that you will need to do things differently than you ever have before. Up to a point, you can rely on the tried and true practices that got you where you are. But when a challenge doesn’t succumb to the tried and trues, change is often what’s waiting. If the promised land of the goal has a strong enough pull on you, you will find yourself choosing to walk through those walls rather than continue to bang your head against them.
CHANGE IS HIDDEN IN THE PROCESS
You have to walk the path, do your part. One secret is to just pay attention to the action required, NOT to the fear surrounding it…the ‘what could be’s’, the what if stuff. It’s like not looking down if you are afraid of heights. That helps me not be so scared. I may not always get the answer I hoped for, but: Action leads to data leads to clarity. Think of the perceived failures and rejections as bumpers on a pinball machine, funneling you to the action step that will matter, that will produce the result desired.
TWO OF MY GREATEST REALIZATIONS THAT PROMOTE THE ART OF CHANGE
FIRST, you will need a way to rejuvenate your mind and cultivate your mindset. Anchors. Some kind of space, activity, ritual something that gets you out of your head. When I feel the brain pangs striking, I grab my gym shoes and walk the trail behind my house. It serves a multitude of amazing purposes, but most importantly, I’m in my happy place. The wide open space of nature, visually entertaining with spectacular colors, physically empowering, and feeling the warmth of the sun and breeze of the Pacific; it’s so powerful, it illuminates my soul. Gratitude sets in, I am enthralled by the physicality of walking and where I get to do it. Fueled by serenity and adrenaline, I find new degrees of clarity here. If there is something weighing in heavily, no doubt it will resurface to the front of mind on my walk. But, I’m interacting with it differently now. My mindset has had a shift, my body is engaged in the process, and it provides space for me to allow new thoughts in. I cannot tell you how well this serves me. You have to find your anchor, it provides inner peace and is a secret weapon in your quest.
The SECOND is to Find Your Passion. Find out what matters to you. If you haven’t thought about it, I suggest you start. Don’t let the automatic pilot of life drone you out. Why is passion important for change? Because as much as the quest to the goal is where all the magic happens, what keeps us humans walking through the challenges that bring about change…is the prize. It has got to be important enough to you to make you do uncomfortable things. You will only change your behavior if what’s on the other side is the most important thing in your world. Everything is figure-out-able.
Karyn Danielle Chylewski
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