Like most of us, I tend to go full speed all the time. But there are times when it seems to be full speed in every area: career, relationship, life, spirit. I’m in the middle of one of those times, maneuvering and managing the work life balance, so I thought I could provide some helpful considerations for when life becomes overwhelming for you, or one of your staff.
I am overwrought with thought. While I’m executing, my brain is sifting through the mental checklist of what’s next. It is 24/7 planning & next steps…only there is an overwhelming mountain of them. The standard full speed process now appears to be more of a kindergarten-level endeavor compared to this.
Thankfully, it’s not that things are going badly, it’s the amount of intensity in combination with the quantity that can be overwhelming.
THE WORK LIFE BALANCE CHALLENGE…
At the beginning of the month, my husband accepted a job in Sausalito, CA. making it a super exciting time for us because we always wanted to land in Northern California, since nine years ago when we celebrated his 40th birthday there.
He had been in conversations with his new place throughout the past two months. Relocation was not going to happen until near the end of the year. We were completely content with that…it allowed for the mental and physical transition time to happen.
Well, when you want something bad enough…you adjust to make it happen even as it challenges your work life balance.
- Low and behold, they changed their minds and wanted an earlier start date. Sure, I thought, this new timeline might be better, even more exciting. But wait, now they want us there this month. Not to worry, we can adjust, plenty of time. Game on. It was early in the month, we can do this. Moving. 8 hours north.
- With a very important family reunion coming up on the East Coast, I was looking forward to gathering together to celebrate the life of a cousin who passed away last year. With this new timeframe, I’d be gone for a week during our turbo move, I have my own work to do that I would have to weave in, and oh yeah…while wonderful, the reunion was going to be an emotional time.
- (Side note: Being able to be in the moment has never served me so well as it has in these times. To focus on one accomplishment at a time, I could see the mountain was getting climbed while enjoying where I currently was.)
- Lastly, storms were rampant up and down the East coast on both days of my travel. I was delayed for 2 days coming back to California. I’m stunned and grateful at what my husband and I have pulled off together this month.
LIFE…MANAGING THE WORK LIFE BALANCE
Life sneaks up on all of us and rewrites what we thought was the story. I never thought I would have the courage to leave the security of my corporate job for my own business (a roller coaster I truly love). I never thought we would make it to Northern California this year. I also never thought I would bury my cousin.
Whether we are the boss, the leader, or one of our employees…the game of life spares no one. We all are on the receiving end at one point or another. Is someone suddenly struggling more than usual with performance, morale, or drive? Before you make assumptions…pause, check in. Maybe they are struggling to climb a mountain and have their own overwhelming time in their life.
Don’t be predictable by being annoyed, surprise them by offering understanding. Your support shows you care for them as a person, that they are so much more than just a worker-bee. These are the times when your ability of understanding what true leadership is will come into play. When you can truly see what is happening to the person (not to you), including what is at stake and how you can help. As you can imagine, the love shown here is so appreciated, and the relationship between the two of you is now much deeper.
When you can offer help and understanding, you are set free as well. You are not upset because of what they are doing or are not doing. You can see through that metric and ask how the person is. And it feels good to show care and offer help to one of your own. We spend a lot (a lot!) of precious time with one another at work. You each will have your share of life’s highs and lows. Let work be a place of certainty, not scrutiny. Not only do you benefit from building relationships, but as a bonus…building relationships builds employee loyalty.
Karyn Danielle Chylewski is a business leadership coach who wants you to inspire and influence thoughtful action within your team…so they can contribute their gifts to your business, and as a team you get to love the work you do.